My strong claim is that a near-accident, death or crisis situation is often needed for people to wake up. Something that shakes us out of the illusion we live in.
It doesn't have to be like this.
By taking responsibility for your own life and update the mental program you are running, the transition may happen without you or anyone in your life having to suffer.
There are those who live their entire life based on an illusion. There is nothing wrong with that. If you crave a deeper, more genuine and heart-aligned purpose in life, you may want to consider align with your higher self. This is a step-by-step process which I would love to assist you with.