Your Perception Determines Your Reality
If you begin to love yourself, you will find that pain and suffering are only warning signs that you are living against your own truth.
Identify with the pain and suffering however, and the universe will continue to mirror that because you identify with it.
Your perception functions like a thermostat. If a poor person wins the lottery, he will most likely end up back in debt after a short period, because he identifies himself as a poor person.
Change your perception of yourself and your reality changes.